Swap shame for self love
Break the habit of shaming yourself.
Here’s the thing: when we do the things we wish we didn’t and/or know we shouldn’t, what often happens is we shame ourselves.
It’s absolutely useful and positive to be aware of when you have said or done something that’s perhaps not in alignment with the highest version of you.
Unfortunately, the natural reaction to this for most of us is to then go onto blame and shame ourselves further for doing it.
Not only is this pointless to change what has already been done, it actually creates more negativity and stuff to be healed on top of the thing itself.
It’s challenging, but when we bump up against our shadow aspects this is when we need to work the hardest to cultivate self love and forgiveness.
Often, it takes time to break bad habits + patterns. You’re probably not going to just stop doing something overnight that has been your default pattern for the majority of your life.
When we are in the process of making positive change, we must extend a lot of grace to ourselves during these times. We will probably eff up and continue certain behaviours and habits for a while until we stop completely or develop a new relationship to it.
The magic phrase “I love myself unconditionally” can be used during these times. We often try to love others unconditionally, yet this energy must also be extended to ourselves.
Blaming + shaming a bad habit or pattern will surely keep you in the loop much longer than you try to lovingly accept your shortcomings + perceived character flaws.
Remember: Creator doesn’t make mistakes. We are created in the image of the divine. Our struggles + challenges are here to lead us closer to God - who loves us unconditionally.
Next time you catch yourself doing something you promised yourself you wouldn’t do again or you mess up and make the same mistake you’ve already made 300 times: be easy on yourself. Soften.
Remember that everyone has a shadow side + things they struggle with. It’s not just you.
Break the habit of shaming yourself. You are wonderful, you are worthy + you are enough.